Soon after I embarked upon this blog project, I realized that keeping a blog going requires much more than just sitting down and writing blog posts. I was surprised to realize that most bloggers spend a great deal of time on social media promoting their posts and engaging with followers. Suddenly, I found I was “that person”. You know, the person who can’t put their smartphone down for a single second. Previously, I had secretly scoffed at such people. Can’t they disconnect and interact with the real world? I self-righteously thought to myself. Now it seemed I was one of those people, and I didn’t want to be. (Although now I can relate and will no longer be a secret scoffer!) I needed to put my phone down and work on maintaining relationships with my family.
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Maintaining Relationships With My Frustrated Family
While I worked to engage with followers, my family became frustrated at my lack of engagement with them. I desperately sought solutions. I searched for ways to interact with followers, write blog posts, and be present in the moment with my family. Here are some strategies that helped me, and maybe they will be useful to you as well if you are struggling with the same dilemma.
Set Limits on Social Media
Ironically, it was my youngest who was the most vocal about the vast amount of time I was spending on my smartphone. Perhaps because his father and I had given him a hard time about spending too much time on his phone. As a result, he might have become more sensitive to this issue. Either that, or he was glad to have someone else take the heat for too much screen time. He was the one who suggested that I limit my time on social media. He even showed me how to access the setting on my phone to schedule downtime from certain apps. I haven’t chosen to do that yet, because I have a built-in limitation every day when I’m at work. All social media sites are blocked in my workplace (a school), and I’m glad. For now, I get up early in the mornings and try to limit my social media time to half an hour, then I go about the rest of my day. In the evenings, I now limit myself to half an hour as well. So far, that seems workable for everyone.
Work on Blog Business When Family is Not Around
The second strategy I employed to maintain relationships was to schedule blog business when I was not around my family. In addition to getting up earlier in the mornings, I have also been able to take care of a few blog tasks briefly during work breaks. Even though I can’t access social media at work, I am able to access WordPress, check my blog email, and answer comments. I am also able to access Canva to design graphics. Sometimes I stay a bit later at work, but if I can get some of those tasks done when I’m not with my family, it makes a world of difference.
When I work out at our local athletic club, I access and engage on social media. That’s why many of my Instagram story posts have the exercise bike console in the background! Since I try to work out about three times a week, I am able to complete tasks pretty consistently.
Take Advantages of Unexpected Opportunities to Get Ahead
Every once in a while these days, I find myself at home alone. Sometimes the guys will be out doing a “guy thing” on a weekend, and I have an extended block of time to myself. When those times arise, I try to get a little ahead on my blog posts. As I write this, for example, I already have three other posts written and saved as drafts. Those were posts I was able to compose during an extended block of alone time. Now, I feel less pressured. I’m still trying to keep up with writing two posts a week, but just knowing that I have a few posts ready gives me great peace of mind. I know I won’t have to spend time disengaged from my family while I rush to meet a self-imposed deadline.
What About You?
Even though I’ve found some strategies that have worked for maintaining the relationships with my family so far, I’d sure appreciate any wise words you might care to share. Do any of you have advice for me? What has worked well for you? I can use all of the help I can get, and I value your input immensely. If this post has been helpful and you like what you have read today, please consider subscribing. I have an entire library of free resources just waiting for you, including this free ebook about some fun tech tools.
Have a super week, and may you be able to balance your family engagement with your follower engagement in a way that works for you.
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